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To Have Love in your Life, First Learn to Recognize It

This is something I’ve learned: if you don’t have love in your heart, you will never find it around you. It’s that simple.

The more you have it and the more you share it, the more you get it back multiplied. Relationships are just an amplifier of what emotions we share. That means you must give unconditional love so you can get it back.

It’s also very important to know how to recognize it, otherwise, you will just find unfit people to create a love story with. If you ever felt like always chosen the To have love in your life, first learn to recognize itwrong person to fall in love with, that’s because you don’t know what love is. Yes, love is without a reason and we can’t control it, but we can identify those that are giving back our love and those that not.

Because if you give love and don’t get it back, that’s a clear reason that person is not meant for you. And you can only know when it the case by knowing the traits of true love. You can’t have something that you don’t even know how it looks like.

So what is love?

Love is the wish for someone’s happiness, either if that includes you or not

Simple as that.

No, love is not complicated, is not this huge mystery of life, is not the untouchable treasure that our modern society tries to make it look like. Is not the painful monster we have to worry about. Love means that you care so much for somebody that you want that person to be happy unconditionally. Love is pure, love is joy, love is happiness and our reason to live. It is our greatest treasure.

I make a point into recognizing love because it’s worrying me to see so few people actually knowing the characteristics of true love. Which by the way, the only true love is unconditional. Anything else is just physical or mental addiction, and that is spelled “disaster”. Not knowing what is love is making you choose by other factors.

You will end up heartbroken, sad and possibly very lonely.

That’s why we will describe the traits of true love because when we will be able to properly know it, we will make it grow into our hearts, we will share it more, therefore, we will find it and attract it from people around us. The next question that comes to mind: how is true love?

True love is unconditional

This is the first and most important quality of love. It doesn’t need anything back. Having a soul mate means that you get love in return as much as you give out, but you must be willing to give it out for free, without expecting something in return.

On the other side, you can’t believe that someone loves you with conditions. They only love you when you provide a value, a benefit or a good feeling. That’s false and it’s not love. The ones that truly love you will do it all the time and in all conditions.

True love is patient

Because it is eternal. There is no rush involved, no pushing the boundaries and no discomfort.

Love is calm and patient. It waits as much as it needs to because all it wants is the loved ones good. There is a certain rush that comes with passion, romance, flirting and just by sharing your life with your special someone. But that is a calm fire, that grows powerful with every love proof that you bring to the table.

True love offers freedom

There is no chains involved, no conditions, no addictions and no restraints. Love can’t be forced.

Of course, that doesn’t mean you can go and broke your lover’s heart doing something bad. It simply means that your lover won’t ask you to love them. It will love you deeply for loving them back, but won’t be something they force on you.

I’ve learned true love the hard way: I loved somebody who didn’t love me back the same. And it’s hard at first to love beyond your own benefit, but once you do it you can truly say that you know what unconditional love is. Once you know how it feels then you are ready to meet your soul mate.

Only after pouring true love all around you, your special someone will be attracted to you.

True love is always supportive

If you love somebody you are always at their side. Through good times and bad, sickness and health, ’till death do you apart. It’s not just a text, it’s the description of it. Those that love you never abandon you, and if they do it their heart will break much more than yours.

Learn to love by always being there and accepting your loved one exactly how he / she is.

Note: Is a very dangerous mindset to think that only in a relationship you can feel love. You experience love every day, either if you are single or in a relationship. You can ignite the fire in your heart and keep your soul warm, either if you found your other soul or not. It’s very important to understand that you have only what you give. Also, that love is like any other areas of life: you need to progress in it to be happy And to progress means that you need to have the proper experience and commitment to it. Love can be expressed even in small acts of kindness done to strangers. In any way you share love, you get more in your heart.

We will end this article with the most beautiful quote about love that teaches us how to love.

Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for; Companionship, intimacy, friendship etc … The truth is, that marriage at the start is an empty box, you must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage, love is in people, and people put love in marriage. There is no romance in marriage, you have to infuse it into your marriage. A couple must learn the art, and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, of keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.


How is this article helpful for you? How will you see the love and your relationship after reading it? Share it with us in the comments. 

Cornel Manu

Self-help author, ghostwriter, and copywriter. Founder of & I love helping people have a better life by improving their health and their mindset. I am also a freelance writer that crafts amazing books, SEO articles, and killer copy. Hire me as freelance writer.

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