The quality of your life depends on how you feel about yourself.
Your self-esteem is a reflection of your inner self that is projected to the outside world to see.
If you have low self-esteem, that will negatively impact your quality of life and well-being and will carry on with you the rest of your life.
That’s why it’s important to have a strong sense of confidence in yourself to attract the people and opportunities you want to push you in the right direction.
I’ve made this short guide to show you how you can improve your self-esteem to help you build the life you want.
Let’s get started.
1. Create A Clear Personal Boundary For Yourself
One problem why we have low self-esteem is because we let people walk all over us.
When you don’t have a strong and clear personal boundary for yourself, this allows people to easily talk about you and influence who you are.
That’s why it is important to have this personal boundary to stop the negative influences and shaping who you are and how you feel about yourself.
Creating a strong boundary does three things:
- It makes people start to respect you more
- It repels the toxic people in your life
- It attracts people with similar strong boundaries
Having a strong boundary attracts other people who define their boundaries.
This doesn’t mean you can’t be nice but it means to be firm when they cross it.
For example, if someone:
- Makes fun of you
- Makes fun of your friends
- Makes fun of your family
Clearly but politely show that you do not like it and move on.
There’s no reason to stick around and this way you start building self-respect.
2. Start Becoming Grateful for the Little Things In Life
The magical part about being grateful for the little things in life is that it forces you to change perspective.
It changes your mindset from focusing on your lack of abilities to being grateful for having things in your life.
The reason why this is important because you stop focusing on having low self-esteem and start building happiness by appreciating the little things in life.
Having this mindset is the foundation for building your self-esteem because only by being truly humble about the things that you have taken for granted, will help you put things in perspective for the future.
For example, the things that we have already taken for granted like:
- The country we live in
- The technology that we use
- And the people that are with us…
May not necessarily last forever
That’s why it is important to start practicing gratitude to build the foundation for your self-esteem.
3. Surround Yourself With Positive People
The best way to increase your self-worth is to start surrounding yourself with the right people.
The 5 people closest to you will influence you so it’s important to choose the people who you spend the most time with.
People with low self-esteem will not only attract other people similar to them, but will also bring you down to the same level… And vice versa.
That’s why you should learn to find people who are positive and confident so that you will be influenced by them.
The reason why you have low self-esteem is because of the lack of belief in the confidence of your abilities.
True friends will point out that everyone has to start somewhere before they get good at any skill.
Find the right friends to be with and they will support you for a lifetime.
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4. Work On Building Your Confidence
The only way to build your confidence is to work on it constantly, every single day.
Confidence is a skill that everybody can learn and is something that you aren’t born with.
The first step to becoming confident is to start expanding your comfort zone by doing things that are slightly uncomfortable to you.
For some people this could be:
- Taking cold showers
- Having a small chat with strangers
- Cold emailing a potential client
The difference between confident people and normal people is that confident people acknowledge the fear and continue to take action.
The reason why they look so confident in these uncomfortable situations is that they continually practice until they become good at it.
Doing the small things that make you scared and uncomfortable means using these moments as building blocks to building your confidence when you face new situations.
5. Start On Creating Habits That Improve Your Life
Humans are creatures of habit and the best way to start building self-esteem is to build habits that will improve your mood and confidence.
These habits could be:
- Working out at a gym 3 times a week
- Meditating for 5 minutes a day
- Journaling right before you go to bed
The reason to create positive habits is not just to improve the quality of your life but to also set up the foundations for a healthy and happy life.
Start small and slowly build them up one at a time. There’s no rush in building lifelong habits that will benefit you for the rest of your life.
The main benefit is that creating positive habits in your life makes it easier to create even more positive habits in your life making it a cycle of improving the quality of your life.
I talked about 5 different ways on how you can improve your self-esteem and have more confidence in your life. I talked about how setting up personal boundaries and being grateful for the little things in life will improve your mood and self-esteem.
I also taught you to increase your confidence by increasing your uncomfortable comfort circle by doing the little things that push you forward.
I finally talked about connecting with positive people to network with and start building positive habits in your life to increase the wellbeing in your life and improve your mood.
How are you planning on improving your self-esteem? Let us know in the comments below.