Love is a very important part of our lives. It makes us feel complete, special and gives everything a meaning. But you can’t master the art of loving others without mastering the art of loving yourself first. We will cover in this article why it’s important and how to make it happen.
1. Why is loving myself important
This is a very good question, and the answer is: you won’t fully love others until you love yourself. You might think that it’s selfish but it’s not. Loving yourself means that you know your value as a human being, you know your good side as much as the bad side, you understand and accept yourself while always improving and getting the best out of you.
This level of acceptance and caring for yourself makes you happy, and when you are happy you can spread that happiness around. If you don’t love yourself you will feel insecure, sad and even broken, and you will spread that around you unintentionally. You can even take it another way: Love is not something you find, is something you have! Just like happiness. We all create our own happiness and love inside of us, we just share it with the ones we love.
I’ve seen this misunderstanding as much as I’ve practiced it in the past: thinking that love means to totally neglect myself and put others always in line. While that is love and sacrifice, it brings you to the point of having people who abuse your weakness.
You get to that point of being exploited if you don’t love yourself and you don’t value yourself. Because, the people who truly loves you, they want to see you happy not miserable and neglecting yourself.
Bottom line, while is a good method of protection it’s also a good resource for spreading love all around you. It all starts within you.
2. It will make others love me more
Definitively! When you love and value yourself as a human being, you get that special glow of confidence that brings the people who truly loves you more close. They see you more, they appreciate you more. It’s a rollercoaster that starts inside.
That fire that lights up in your heart when you look in the mirror and say “I love myself” evolves into a volcano outside, a volcano of love, happiness and heart-melting moments.
3. How do I love myself
First of all, you need to understand that every human being is flawed. Nobody is perfect and you don’t make any exception. The main reason you don’t love yourself is because you blame yourself for not being perfect, for failing at something. I know that feeling from the past and I know it’s deeply hurtful. We can be the worst critiques for ourselves as much as we can be our best lovers.
I don’t say that we don’t need to improve and should consider ourselves perfect. No, while I am accepting that I need to improve for the purpose of progressing and having a better life, I love myself the way I am NOW.
And this is how all the people should feel about themselves. Strike to achieve perfection but always be aware that we won’t be perfect! Once this deep level of acceptance and love pours into our souls, it can grow so big that will spread to every area of our lives.
That’s why I am saying and I am insisting that for a happy loving life, you have to build your foundation of emotions. You have to love yourself! Your soul is the foundation.
Like Zoe Kravitz said: ”Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.” (http://www.mylovequotes.net/really-beauty-love-appreciate/)
What would you do today to love yourself more? What traits do you have and choose to focus on? Share it with us in the comments.